Can I just criticize Black mothers today and say that I think it’s really interesting how hypocritical many of you are? When you find out your teenage daughter is having sex by her own consent and terms, you beat her. You beat her harshly. You call her a slut or a ho. You embarrass her. You punish her. You make her stay secluded. You hate the idea of your teenage daughter ever having autonomy of her own body. You hate the fact that your teenage daughter is discovering her femininity and sexuality. You hate all of that. BUT… When your daughter is molested or raped by a family member or her dad or your husband or your male friend or just a guy in general ….where is the outrage against him??? You deny it happened to her. You tell her to suck it up for the sake of the family. You keep her abuser around. You don’t report the sexual assault. You blame your daughter by telling her she shouldn’t have been acting grown.
I’m going to keep it real. A lot of Black mothers are sick. A lot of Black mothers subconsciously hate Black girls. They have daughters and they think they love them. But they are extremely jealous of their daughter’s youth and femininity so they go through great measures to try to extinguish it. They won’t let their daughter explore her hair and makeup. They won’t let their daughter dress in nice clothing. They won’t let their daughter socialize and discover her sexuality in a healthy way. This is NOT protection, and it should not be confused as such. Because when it comes to destruction, somehow she suddenly has no problem sacrificing her daughter. She is willing to dismiss the pain of her daughter to protect men. She is unbothered by sexual abuse committed upon her daughter. She contributes to her daughter’s low self esteem because she subconsciously feels she is in competition with her daughter. She punishes her daughter physically. And you won’t see any of this treatment dished toward her son because she subconsciously sees her son as her superior and she will coddle and praise him no matter what. Black mothers are hurting their daughters with their abusive ways, and this must change.
